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Don’t let the fire-breathing dragons of life intimidate you into a case of the “I Can’ts”

I’ve had a bad couple of days.  This is mostly what I felt like:

Meet my alter-ego, Mrs. Viking Grumpy Pants.

Blog writing was right out.

However, because I cannot shut this brain of mine off, I have been thinking about a conversation I had with a friend on Sunday.  She didn’t say exactly what was going on in her life, but she did say she just couldn’t take anymore pain and suffering.   She just couldn’t go on anymore.  She wanted to give up and give in.  I did my best to encourage her to not give up, to trust God’s process, and to get back on track.  In other word, she is trying to make some changes and keeps getting knocked down.

Let’s be honest, most of our habits need to change.  Especially the emotional habits that constantly put us on the edge of a cliff.  That cliff you can’t see because you’re too busy making butt impressions on the couch.  Habits grow neurons in our brain that settle in with their favorite treats to watch a movie and refuse to budge from that really comfy couch because  you made an excellent indent where their butt goes.  Habits are familiar.  Habits are comfortable.  Habits are safe.

Making changes is a lot like fighting a fire-breathing dragon.  It’s difficult and it can be painful.  I mean, after all they have that nasty habit of giggling at me when I attempt to hack my way through their hard, scaly skin.  And the fire.  Need I say more?

Ow! Ow! Ow! Ow!

When faced with this, it is easy to want to give up.  I mean after all, falling down repeatedly on  your face is a painful (and embarrassing) experience.  Why would any sane person keep doing something that hurts, right?  If you’re not careful, this kind of thinking can give you a case of the “I Can’ts”.  As in “I just can’t do this anymore.”  As in “I can’t face the pain anymore.”  As in “I can’t change.”  As in “let’s just give up and let the dragon eat us, m’kay?” (Ok, that last didn’t technically have “I can’t” in there, but you get my point)

Yes, making changes is difficult and painful, but not impossible.

That’s right I said “NOT IMPOSSIBLE”.  (I shouted that in case you didn’t hear me.  You’re welcome)

It requires work, determination, sweat, blood, tears, grit, toughness and any other “You Can Do This” adjective you’d like to throw in there.  If you keep at it,  you’ll get there eventually.  That dragon does  have it’s weak spots.  You just have to keep looking for them.

Because the pain and difficulties associated with change are a price worth paying to get you out of your butt-impression making half-life.

I promise.

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So, tell me about one of  your fire-breathing dragons…

Emotional couch potatoes don’t get much done.

Did you know that?  Did  you know you are the master of your psyche, your internal universe, not it’s slave?  Is that a brand-new thought for you?  Well, that’s okay.  Go on and read awhile and let the sun rise on this brand new seed I am planting in your garden of thoughts.

I thought I would address what I mean by “be an overcomer”.  First, let’s define “to overcome“.  According to the New American Oxford Dictionary the definition is:

overcome |ˌōvərˈkəm|verb ( past -came; past part. -come) [ trans. ]succeed in dealing with (a problem or difficulty) : she worked hard to overcome her paralyzing shyness.

  • defeat (an opponent); prevail : without firing a shot they overcame the guards | [ intrans. ] we shall overcome.
  •  (usu. be overcome) (of an emotion) overpower or overwhelm : she was obviously overcome withexcitement.

ORIGIN Old English ofercuman (see over- , come ).

The New Testament Greek word for overcome is Nikao, which means:

  • to conquer
  • to carry off the victory, come off victorious
  • of Christ, victorious over all His foe
  • of Christians, that hold fast their faith even unto death against the power of their foes, and temptations and persecutions
  • when one is arraigned or goes to law, to win the case, maintain one’s cause

“Overcomer” is not an actual word.  But, if you go with it, it means to be a person that overcomes.  A conqueror, a warrior, a fighter, a mountain climber.  I think  you get the point.

Yesterday, I talked about the idea that you can change something in your emotions and your way of thinking if you want to.  Overcoming, or conquering, something requires a couple of key elements.  First,  you have to recognize that there is a problem to start with.  Second, you have to WANT to overcome that problem.  These two things go hand in hand.  These two elements are linked inextricably together. If  you recognize the problem, but don’t want to change, you, well, won’t change.  If  you want to change, but don’t recognize the problem you might as well be climbing up a mountain blindfolded.

Another crucial part of this process is to recognize that you have to be an active participant in overcoming.  There is no such thing as passively overcoming a  problem.  You can’t “wait it out”.  All the wishes in the world won’t make a problem “magically” disappear.  Warriors don’t win wars by sitting on their couches and complaining about their enemy.  Or by fooling themselves into believing there is no enemy.  They see their enemy, they envision the battle and their role in the battle.  They get to know their enemy’s ways.  They train.  They prepare.  They get out there and fight back.  That requires belief in the idea that you are an active participant in your psyche.  You are the master, not the slave.

You have to fight to win.

Let me repeat that, YOU HAVE TO FIGHT TO WIN!

Say this out loud to yourself, “I have to fight to win!”

Say it again, only louder.

And again.

And again.

Is it starting to sink in?

Good.

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So tell me, are you ready to pick up your sword?